today, alex and i have been married for 4 months! in the spirit of my 2 month anniversary post, i thought i'd spend some time reflecting and share some additional marital wisdom :)
1 - spending time together = becoming more like each other: alex has discovered he actually really enjoys reading (we even got library cards!) and i've become a much more knowledgeable football fan (football is 4 nights a week in our house - thursday, saturday, sunday, monday). also, i think we're finding each other funnier than ever before...i don't know if that means we're actually becoming funnier people or perhaps our standards are lowering ever so slightly :)
2 - when one of us cares deeply about how something is done, it's best for the other to let them do their thing: i never had a real Christmas tree growing up (allergies run deep in my family), so the whole picking out a Christmas tree process is a bit of a mystery to me, but to alex, it's a science - how many needles fall off when you bang it on the ground, are there any obvious holes, is it the right shape, etc. and even though it's FREEZING outside, you have to examine every potential tree. so this year when we went to select our tree, i just sat back and let him do his thing, and we came home with the perfect tree!
for me, the example may seem...kind of stupid, but i care deeply about how the dishwasher gets loaded. it's better for alex (and our marriage) if he just puts the silverware in the way i tell him to and doesn't resist. the silverware gets cleaner my way anyways.
3 - cooking for two means tuna and crackers no longer equals an adequate dinner: when you're cooking for two, you actually have to COOK and not just combine whatever's left in the back of the cabinets. and because cooking (and doing the dishes) can be a lot of work, you often want to make enough food to feed you both for more than one meal. be sure to adjust your portions appropriately though, because a box of pasta that used to feed me for a week now feeds us for 1.5 meals. boys eat a lot.
4 - two people = more than twice as much laundry: maybe this is obvious to other people, but i didn't really think about how much bigger alex's clothes are than mine, which means we actually have more than just twice as much laundry to do. maybe i should just take my wise husband's advice, and instead of doing laundry more often, we'll just get a bigger hamper!
4 comments:
Congratulations on 4 months :) and I love these little updates! Seems like you are making each other laugh and learning the art of compromise! Love these insights :)
Haha, you are becoming so wise about marriage!
I enjoy reading these posts because some of them are things that have become so normal that I have completely forgotten about them! For example - the dinner thing. I can't even remember when crackers and cheese or cereal was an acceptable dinner option! And there are DEFINITELY things that we each like done a certain way and have just gotten used to that fact!
Love it!
haha thank you for the enlightening and entertaining future marriage tips!
great insights! i love the one about cooking, especially since my "meals" are mostly cereal these days...congratulations on 4 months, and thanks for sharing with us!
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